Research suggests that if you haven’t been together for over seven months, it’s likely to end in disaster, here's how to ensure that doesn't happen.
All relationships face certain milestones and turning points—you’ve got your first kiss, your first time being intimate, meeting the friends, meeting the parents, and eventually your first trip together.
The thought of packing your bags and hopping a flight with no way to turn back can be pretty anxiety-inducing - and you’re not wrong to be a little apprehensive about this whole first-trip thing.
But if you plan it right, we promise it won’t be nearly as frightening. It is, after all, a sexy vacation.
Keep scrolling to ensure it won't be your last:
Plan it together
For a relatively new couple, the idea of planning a holiday together can be exciting. But equally, daunting. While it may be the easiest option to organise everything yourself (or leave it up to your partner), it isn’t necessarily fair and this is how arguments begin before you're even on the plane.
A positive way to look at delegating tasks out is for each person to take a task that they’re good at. If one of you is more confident about planning than the other then you should feel free to have a go. Perhaps one of you is well-travelled and knows the best route for interrailing or you're particularly picky about what accommodation you stay in while your partner is easy going. However, sometimes you and your partner's needs will conflict. In this case, combination holidays are your best friend. if you like sports but your partner likes catching up on their tan, book a beach holiday that has water sports and beach trips available in the water. Relationships are about compromise – and holidays are too.
It can be pretty tough (not to mention, uncomfortable) to talk money with your partner, especially early on. What if they expect a beach vacation where you're used to roughing it by camping out or staying at a B&B, and they expects five-star luxury?
Rip off the budget Band-Aid by having a frank discussion about your finances abroad. If you can’t afford as much as your partner—or vice versa—be honest and express your concerns. It is also sensible, if undeniably unsexy, to discuss ahead of time how you will split the costs in the event that one of you drives the hire car off one of those dangerous roads, or any other catastrophic scenario. Call it a holiday prenup.
ditch the itinerary
There’s nothing like a rigorous schedule to take all the sex drive out of a romantic first holiday together. You need time to be spontaneous, and an itinerary is bound to come with its frustrations. The general consensus is that people don't bode well to partners giving you over-detailed itineraries – there must be some spontaneity factored in, but that’s because people enjoy unexpected adventures. However, it is different for everyone, some love a super-focused travel plan and get driven mad by chaotic or lazy partners. Either way, passion tends to wane when a relationship begins to feel too controlling.
DO A DRY RUN
When it comes to the kind of trip to book, try a short holiday to start with. One that’s easy-going and close to home that you can treat as a kind of trial run. You're still getting to know each other and this is done best in an environment where both partners feel comfortable.
Even if just for a few days, you'll learn things about your partner which will not only bring you closer but it will stand to you in the long run. New research commissioned by Exclusiveprivatevillas.com, found that almost half of Brits (46%) said going on holiday too soon with a new love means you risk not knowing each other well enough to cope with spending so much time together. So like we said, it’s probably best to start with a shorter trip, maybe a weekend break, but if your partner wants to take you for a 10-day beach holiday and it feels too much, then express that – it doesn’t have to be a negative conversation.
It can be hard to spend time with just one other person 24/7, so don’t feel bad if you feel like you need a walk alone or a bit of quiet time to read a book whilst your partner goes and does something else. Having this alone time can be priceless in restoring your own emotional balance when you're coming together with someone new in this kind of intimate setting. If this is your first holiday together, chances are you don't spend 24/7 together so taking time whether it's reading a book, going for a walk or scrolling through Instagram is healthy for both you and your partner.