Because everyone knows February is the real January first.
While we may enter 2020 feeling like we can take over the world, that feeling usually comes to a crashing halt right around the second week of January. So if like us, January wasn't all you had hoped for...here's how to reclaim your 2020 narrative.
Make A List
It sounds obvious but taking the time to actually write down what it is you really want from 2020, you're ten times likely to actually achieve it. Write down what want, how you're going to get it and how it's going to make you feel when you do. Eg: “I want a better role at work” would need steps like (1) asking to be trained on something new (2) volunteer for any new projects (3) value yourself. That sort of stuff. Mapping out your aims and how you'll get them will help you focus.
GET RID OF THE BAD STUFF
Bad relationships, bad wardrobe choices, bad eyeliner: clear away what’s not making you happy, or what’s stopping you from living your best life. It doesn’t all have to be done in one violent swoop in January, but just make the intention and do it soon.
It’s easy to be a creature of habit - and it’s easy to lose actual years to just pottering along, not doing much of anything. Make this year the one you challenge yourself a bit. That could be signing up for a class, or a Tinder account, taking on a new position at work or finally having the nerve to try a HIIT class. Just do something new, and you could find your new favourite thing.
FOCUS ON THE GOOD STUFF
Sometimes the problems we encounter seem bigger than the good experiences. It’s okay to be unhappy when things aren’t going well but it’s also okay to enjoy the good stuff - and remember what you have to be grateful for. It’s all about balance. If it helps, keep a list of good things or search the #dogsofinstagram hashtag when things get tough. It makes for a nice reminder to be hopeful during tougher times.
Don’t compare yourself to others
You’re an individual, as is everyone else. We all do things in our own time and at our own pace. Don’t forget too that social media is full of filters and best-angle-only selfies. Everyone has good and bad times in their lives - whether they post about it or not - and the best thing to do is just focus on your own world and being as happy and confident as you can be.
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