On the latest episode of her podcast Castaway, presenter Laura Whitmore and comedian Katherine Ryan talked openly and honestly about pregnancy loss.
"I felt embarrassed and shameful," said Katherine Ryan,"not that I had the loss, but I felt embarrassed for getting excited before the loss. I felt all these things, and I looked for stories and I really couldn’t find many of them."
"Girls need to know that you can have this secret, silent miscarriage. I'm 36 and I thought I was very well-versed on women's issues and I genuinely didn't know a miscarriage could happen in this way. So I think, the more women who tell their stories about this and so many issues, and the intimacy of doing that through a podcast was important for me to share that, even if it helps one person."
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"I've never told you this," said Laura, "but I remember in my situation about two years ago when we went for our scan, it was supposed to be our first proper scan, and it was that night I was going to see your show.
"We had gone to go for the scan and there was no heartbeat. The doctors, it happens so much that they're quite used to it, I didn't realise the figures until afterwards. I didn't know how I was supposed to react. Was I supposed to be upset? Was I supposed to be 'oh, ok' and move on?" she continued.
"I remember Iain saying to me, 'should we just go home?' and I said, 'I can’t go home. I want to go to the show. I want to have a little bit of escapism for an hour and I want to laugh and I want to watch a show and then I want to deal with it."
"Everyone reacts differently," says Laura. "I remember, I just was like, I'm gonna have a glass of wine, cause I haven't drank in 12 weeks. For me, that was so important to see your show and I had a little bit of escapism that night."
You can listen to the entire Castaway podcast here.
In October, Whitmore penned a personal essay for Hot Press magazine in which she detailed her shock at discovering she was expecting her first child and the moment the doctor told her the baby didn't have a heartbeat during a scan.
If you have been affected by any of the issues raised in this article you can contact The Miscarriage Association of Ireland:
- Web: www.miscarriage.ie
- Phone: 01 873 5702
- Email: [email protected]
Main image by @thewhitmore